When Wynne and Scandals talk about “consent” in the sex ed program from public and “catholic” schools, they don’t mean what most parents mean. Don’t fall for the nice words of Wynne or your children’s principal!
The Guelph Sexuality Conference is a weird conference with many influential people in the sex ed and sex ed curriclum world. Have a look at the link and all the the talk this year. I have excerpted the ones on consent. They are all from a “pleasure perspective” and include things like sexting consent.
The OECTA “catholic” teachers union has had speakers at GSC. As well they have promoted it in the past.
Ruth Neustifter (an Ontario “catholic” high school grad) is big behind the GSC. Check out some of their views from a Salon article
Searching for a solution for these defects, McDonough sought tips from Salon’s “favorite sex writers and sex educators.” She sought the advice of Ruth Neustifter, sexuality educator and Assistant Professor of Couple & Family Therapy at the University of Guelph, Ontario, Canada; Joshua Rosenberger, assistant professor of global and community health at George Mason University; Rich Juzwiak, staff writer at Gawker; and Feminista Jones, sex-positive Black feminist, social worker and blogger (I’m not making this up).
Instead of leaving sex education to parents, or teaching abstinence in school, this body of experts came up with some better suggestions of what should be taught, presumably suggestions they have been promoting in other venues. Here’s a few:
· Virginity can’t be lost because it doesn’t really exist
· We can define gender for ourselves and respect how others define their gender
· Seek out partners who want to support you in feeling good
· It’s a lot easier to accept yourself and all the weirdness inside of you when you realize that everyone else is dealing with that, too
· Sex is about learning what you like
· Don’t let expectations box you in or limit your pleasure
· Know who you are when it comes to your sexuality, but don’t be afraid to step outside your comfort zone and be open-minded about sexual experiences
· The sooner you become open-minded the more fun you are going to have
· You don’t have to love someone to have sex, but you should respect your partners and yourself enough to make what goes on between you pleasurable and safe
· There’s nothing more empowering than being able to safely explore one’s desires and fantasies without fear of shame or feelings of remorse
· Sex is not just intercourse or penetration. It can include an endless combination of different things
· Orientation is an identity preference and you can choose who you want and change your mind as many times as you like
· Embrace the diversity of sexual behavior and identities
· Embrace words like fluidity and diversity
· People need to understand that sex is fun—fun and funny